Manhood 101: Sexual Holiness

How should we pursue sexual holiness?

How should we pursue sexual holiness?


I’ve been moonlighting over at CBMW’s Manual and will be writing over there more often. Last week I contributed to the current series Manhood 101 on sexual holiness. It’s an admonition for men to stop playing the age old blame game and battle for purity where the war has already been won—at the foot of the cross.

I love The Valley of Vision. If you are unfamiliar, it’s a collection of Puritan prayers that grasp at the vitals of true religion and robust doctrine like few other devotional resources. It will teach you to pray. It will stoke your love for God. And I hope today that it teaches us, as men, how to fight for purity.

Purity isn’t nebulous. God requires absolute purity, an untainted life in thought and deed. Yet none of us will ever achieve that standard by our own effort. Thankfully as believers in “faith [we can apprehend] Christ’s righteousness,” as the Puritan says. The justice of God is satisfied. It is finished. There’s now and never will be a court who can say, “Guilty!”

However, we live in the not yet of an over-sexualized culture, easy access internet pornography, and the commodification of girls and women. Corey Poff recently wrote a knock down article where he describes Adam’s blame shifting in relation to the notion that chivalry is dead. Corey writes, “Translation: ‘It’s the lady’s fault. And Yours, too, since You made her to begin with. Stop looking at me. She’s the one You want.’”

Read the entire article here.


Mathew B. Sims is the author of A Household Gospel: Fulfilling the Great Commission in Our Homes and a contributor in Make, Mature, Multiply (GCD Books). He completed over forty hours of seminary work at Geneva Reformed Seminary. He also works as the managing editor at Gospel-Centered Discipleship and the assistant editor at CBMW Men’s Channel. He regularly writes for a variety of publications. Mathew offers freelance editing and book formatting.